Five Principles of Authentic Communication

Originally written by Joshua Harris from the book Boy Meets Girl

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Boy Meets Girl is a book written by Joshua Harris that tackles the journey about courtship and marriage. The book is actually published few years ago. But, I didn’t have the drive to read it. Whoops, I am not yet into that especially marriage but who knows. God is a god of surprises. 🙂 Finally after nth years, I’m reading it. It’s a perfect timing since a special friend of mine is into her “more than friends but less than lovers” stage. I want to be there for her and advise her on stuff about courtship. I think the wisdom and teachings from the book will do. Though, still, experience is the best teacher of all. Well, my goal is not to be a counselor, I just want to be a good friend- a good friend with wisdom. I also remember the time when I needed to give an advice to one of my spiritual daughters. I didn’t know what to say since I never been into that! A bit frustrating cause I was honestly out of words. This is why I eventually urged and convinced myself to read it even if it’s kind of awkward (I called it self-felt awkwardness). But mind you, it’s a good read and I’m learning a lot.

Joshua Harris said, “Romance is a very good thing. But just because it’s good doesn’t mean that we can enjoy it whenever and however we please. Like all other good gifts God has made, romantic love can be misusedWisdom is the ownership of insight… I like to think that the relationship between wisdom and romance is like the one between a string and a kite. Romantic love is a kite that catches the wind and tenaciously heads for the sky; wisdom is the string that tugs downward, holding it back. The tension is real but healthy.” 

True! Romance and wisdom co-exist. Love without wisdom isn’t real romance; romance without wisdom isn’t love; wisdom comes from perfect love. Romance and wisdom (during and after courtship) may not be perfect but those who are involved should always seek for consistent growth. This is why Joshua Harris’ five principles of authentic communication must be shared. The principles are not exclusive for dating people or married couples but can also be applied anytime, anywhere to strengthen our communication with others. 

Principle 1: Communication problems are heart problems

You will never change your ways until you understand that the source of your problems isn’t ultimately the upbringing or personality; it’s our own sinful hearts. [Paraphrased]

Principle 2: Your ears are your most important communication tools.

Authentic communication involves asking and listening. If we want to truly know and understand other people, we have to care what they feel and think, not arrogantly assume that we already know… Listen twice as much as you talk.”

Principle 3: Good communication doesn’t happen by accident.

Communication doesn’t just happen. It’s something we have to plan for and work at.

Principle 4: The absence of conflict doesn’t equal good communication. 

Our goal shouldn’t be to avoid conflict, but to learn to work through it and resolve it in a way that honors God.”

Principle 5: Motive is more important than technique.

Before we worry about method or technique, we need to make sure the motive of our heart is pleasing to God. He wants our motive to be sincerely love and serve others- to build up, encourage and benefit them

Lastly, just a piece of advice- Always be authentic. Be the best version of you but always be true to yourself.

GRI Version 3.1 Vs. GRI V4

This post is quite different from the usual.
Aside from the intent of keeping my notes during our training, I’d also like to share this to people who are interested with sustainability or sustainability reporting. Also, to highlight the difference between G3.1 and G4.
Let’s go GREEN!
Summary:
The Global Reporting Initiative (GRI) is a non-profit organization that promotes economic, environmental and social sustainability. GRI provides all companies and organizations with a comprehensive sustainability reporting framework that is widely used around the world. (https://www.globalreporting.org/Information/about-gri/Pages/default.aspx)
A sustainability report enables companies and organizations to report sustainability information in a way that is similar to financial reporting.  Systematic sustainability reporting gives comparable data, with agreed disclosures and metrics.  (https://www.globalreporting.org/information/sustainability-reporting/Pages/default.aspx)
GRI Version 1 was released in 2000/2001.
V2 in 2002/2003
V3 in 2006
note: v1-v3 (can’t be used today)
GRI V3.1 2008 (won’t be used by 2015)
V4 released in 2013
Process in Preparing sustainability Report
Step 1: Identification (sustainability context)
> Identify the issues
Step 2: Prioritization
>How to:
1. Stakeholder engagement
2. Based on risk matrix
Step 3: Validate
Then….. REPORT
Step 1 to 3: Stakeholder inclusiveness
Step 4: Review
GRI is made up of:
Part I– Profile Disclosure
>company facts
Part II– Disclosure of Management Approaches
> How do you manage sustainability issues, policies,ISO, EMS
>qualitative
Part III– Performance Indicators
>quantitative
>ex: what is your carbon footprint
Part I and II are GRI Standard disclosures
Part III is GRI Indicator
Difference bet. G3.1 and G4
On G3.1 Levels of Reporting:
 GRI 3.1
On G4 SR Guidelines:
Levels:
1. Core- Info which should be disclosed in all cases. It must undergo materiality test. To be a core, 50 indicators are required for Part 1. ex: salary disclosures of CEO
2. Comprehensive- info required in addition to the core requirement.
For G4:
>On auditing- everything must be checked
>no “+” (ex: B+, A+)
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“Success: It’s not always what you see”

I write a lot. I love to write all my thoughts, insights and feelings even while walking, listening to music or patiently waiting for my bus to move forward due to heavy traffic jam.

But one Sunday morning, God gave me a chance to speak up and share what’s on my heart. Actually, I never imagined myself to preach. I am afraid of so many things. I fear to stand in front of other people.  Well, aside from death that’s the thing that I fear the most. However, He knew that I am BORN for this. We are all born to share His word not just through writing but also declaring who He is; for the world needs to recognize Him. I spoke during our Sunday Service for almost an hour. Isn’t that amazing? His love casts out fear. I was able to finish it with His grace and faithfulness. Now, to You be all the glory.

“When you find yourself wavering in faith, judge Him faithful and be at rest. He cannot fail you and will do as His Word has promised.” Ptr. Joseph Prince

Romans 10:15
New Living Translation (NLT)
15 And how will anyone go and tell them without being sent? That is why the Scriptures say, “How beautiful are the feet of messengers who bring good news!”

Oooh… And now, I can finally say, “I have beautiful feet”.

God don’t want the message to be heard by those who were just there during our service. So, I’m writing this post to share what God wants to in store for His beloved children.

“Success: It’s not always what you see”

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I started my message with this: Success: It’s not always what you see.

There are times in our life that other people thought we are successful with so many things yet, the truth is; we are still longing for something that can fill a part of who we are. Being successful is not defined with what you are able to achieve but how you actually reach it and how you undergo the process. If we know that we are satisfied and we endure the process with joy, then that is a “Good success”.

Joseph The Dreamer

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He is one of the distinct characters in the Bible. He has a very strong and unique character. The book (Genesis 37, 39-47) has this significantly beautiful story line about Joseph that captivates the heart.

Who is Joseph?

  1. Son of Jacob (Israel)  and Rachel
  2. 11th son of Jacob
  3. Rachel’s firstborn

The Robe

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3 Now Israel loved Joseph more than any of his other sons, because he had been born to him in his old age; and he made an ornate[a] robe for him. Genesis 37:3

Why of all the sons of Israel he gave the robe to Joseph? Maybe, Israel (Jacob) is his son to Rachel whom he loved so much. The chapters on how Jacob waited and sacrificed a lot to win Rachel proved his unconditional love for her.

The robe that Jacob did for Joseph is a prophetic sign of royalty. Joseph is born to become a royalty.

 

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Lesson #1 from the life of Joseph

There are things that are destined to be yours even if you don’t seek or ask for it. You are born for something even before time began. You are born for greatness.

The Failures and Successes

 

Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him all the more. He said to them, “Listen to this dream I had: We were binding sheaves of grain out in the field when suddenly my sheaf rose and stood upright, while your sheaves gathered around mine and bowed down to it.”

His brothers said to him, “Do you intend to reign over us? Will you actually rule us?” And they hated him all the more because of his dream and what he had said.

Then he had another dream, and he told it to his brothers. “Listen,” he said, “I had another dream, and this time the sun and moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me.”

25 As they sat down to eat their meal, they looked up and saw a caravan of Ishmaelites coming from Gilead. Their camels were loaded with spices, balm and myrrh, and they were on their way to take them down to Egypt.

26 Judah said to his brothers, “What will we gain if we kill our brother and cover up his blood? 27 Come, let’s sell him to the Ishmaelites and not lay our hands on him; after all, he is our brother, our own flesh and blood.” His brothers agreed.

28 So when the Midianite merchants came by, his brothers pulled Joseph up out of the cistern and sold him for twenty shekels[b] of silver to the Ishmaelites, who took him to Egypt.

Joseph brothers were jealous of him. They plotted to kill Joseph but they just sold him to Midianite merchants.

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But…

The Lord was with Joseph so that he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian master. When his master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord gave him success in everything he did, Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant. Potiphar put him in charge of his household, and he entrusted to his care everything he owned. From the time he put him in charge of his household and of all that he owned, the Lord blessed the household of the Egyptian because of Joseph. The blessing of the Lord was on everything Potiphar had, both in the house and in the field. So Potiphar left everything he had in Joseph’s care; with Joseph in charge, he did not concern himself with anything except the food he ate.

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Lesson #2 from the life of Joseph

2. The lowest points in our life are actually launching pads to God’s greatest promotion.

I suddenly remembered Nick Vujicic. Nicholas James “Nick” Vujicic is a Serbian Australian evangelist and motivational speaker born with tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare disorder characterized by the absence of all four limbs. His situation didn’t stop him to live his life to the fullest. He said, “If I fail, I try again, and again, and again. If YOU fail, are you going to try again? The human spirit can handle much worse than we realize. It matters HOW you are going to FINISH. Are you going to finish strong?” Without thinking of his condition, he was still able to learn a lot of things that some of the normal person can’t do (e.g. golf, swimming, surfing). Woah!

Potiphar’s wife plotted to put Joseph in prison…

13 When she saw that he had left his cloak in her hand and had run out of the house, 14 she called her household servants. “Look,” she said to them, “this Hebrew has been brought to us to make sport of us! He came in here to sleep with me, but I screamed. 15 When he heard me scream for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house.”

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Joseph was then put into prison…

But while Joseph was there in the prison, 21 the Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden. 22 So the warden put Joseph in charge of all those held in the prison, and he was made responsible for all that was done there. 23 The warden paid no attention to anything under Joseph’s care, because the Lord was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did.

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Lesson #3 from the life of Joseph

God is a god of “unexpected” surprises and unmerited favors.

While in prison, Joseph interpreted the dreams of the cupbearer and the baker. After interpreting the dream of the cupbearer, he asked the latter not to forget him and put him out of prison after.

23 The chief cupbearer, however, did not remember Joseph; he forgot him.

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Lesson #4 from the life of Joseph

Our present circumstances will tell who we are and who we become.

 

Joseph interpreted the dream of the Pharaoh

39 Then Pharaoh said to Joseph, “Since God has made all this known to you, there is no one so discerning and wise as you. 40 You shall be in charge of my palace, and all my people are to submit to your orders. Only with respect to the throne will I be greater than you.”

41 So Pharaoh said to Joseph, “I hereby put you in charge of the whole land of Egypt.”42 Then Pharaoh took his signet ring * from his finger and put it on Joseph’s finger. He dressed him in robes of fine linen and put a gold chain around his neck. 43 He had him ride in a chariot as his second-in-command, and people shouted before him, “Make way!”Thus he put him in charge of the whole land of Egypt.

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Lesson #5 from the life of Joseph

Do not expect God to do all your expectations. Expect God to do the unexpected. Expect to see good success beyond your present circumstances. Stop looking at your failures and stop allowing them to discourage you. 

 “Dream. Believe. Survive… and be Victorious”

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Colonel Harland Sanders was 65 years old when he Launched Kentucky Fried Chicken. It starts with him dropping out of school in the sixth grade, not because he was lazy, but because he had to take care of his younger brothers. He got a social security check for only $105 and was mad. Instead of complaining he did something about it. He thought restaurant owners would love his fried chicken recipe, use it, sales would increase, and he’d get a percentage of it. He drove around the country knocking on doors, sleeping in his car, wearing his white suit.

Do you know how many times people said no till he got one yes? 1009 times! (http://www.biography.com/people/colonel-harland-sanders)

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Joseph revealed himself

Then Joseph said to his brothers, “Come close to me.” When they had done so, he said, “I am your brother Joseph, the one you sold into Egypt! And now, do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves for selling me here, because it was to save lives that God sent me ahead of you.

“So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God. He made me father to Pharaoh, lord of his entire household and ruler of all Egypt. Now hurry back to my father and say to him, ‘This is what your son Joseph says: God has made me lord of all Egypt. Come down to me; don’t delay. 10 You shall live in the region of Goshen and be near me—you, your children and grand children, your flocks and herds, and all you have. 11 I will provide for you there, because five years of famine are still to come.

So Joseph settled his father and his brothers in Egypt and gave them property in the best part of the land, the district of Rameses, as Pharaoh directed. Gen. 47:11 (which is the Land of Goshen, the land of provision, blessing and protection)

Lesson #6 from the life of Joseph

Forgive. Forgive. Forgive…, Forget and Move on.

Our life does not go in a linear way. It is like an electrocardiograph; the moment it goes to a straight line, it means we’re dead. Therefore, let us be thankful that our life goes up and down then up like the ECG, it means God is working in our lives and we are breathing and living a life full of surprises and excitement.

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Lesson #7 from the life of Joseph

“…though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again…” Proverbs 24:16, NIV

Thus, we should…

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Ask, Seek, Knock, And Dream BIG Dreams

balon“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receive; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. Matthew 7:7-8

When I was  a kid, I always had this dream of seeing myself walking over the clouds, and flying from wherever to wherever. It was indeed an awesome feeling every moment I wake up.

Now, I’m dreaming BIG DREAMS, REAL DREAMS and the Lord said, “It is finished (John 19:30)”. The work is complete.

I believe God will take me to a whole new season of getting things right and making new steps for myself and for the nations of the world. The Lord said I should accelerate, I answered “Amen”; and I’m excited for what will happen on the next few days.

I asked Him to set my heart on fire, He gave me all “these”.

I continually seek for His amazing love; He gave me more than what I expected.

I knocked; He opened the Heavens.

Thank you My Daddy! I will continue moving the mountains because I know You’re there. Everything that You are putting on my life today excites me. I know You are in control. All things will work together for good. I am delighted to see myself there in the future. Prepare me, prepare my heart. I will always keep Your promises. Soon, I will be in the Land of Goshen with my family; a place nearest to God, the land of provision, blessing and protection.

Everything’s gonna be okay. Hurray for today!

IT IS FINISHED!

Prom Night

Prom by Sugarfree

cover: https://soundcloud.com/ejay-yatco/sa-wakas-prom

Puso kong di mapalagay
Pwede ba kitang tabihan
Kahit na may iba ka nang kasama

Ito na ang gabing di malilimutan
Dahan-dahan tayong nagtinginan

Parang ating ang gabi
Para bang wala tayong katabi
At tayo’y sumayaw
Na parang di na tayo bibitaw
Bibitaw

Nalalasing sa iyong tingin
Di malaman laman ang gagawin
Habang lumalamim ang gabi
Ay lumalapit ang ating mga labi

Ito na ang gabing di malilimutan
Tayo’y naglakad ng dahan-dahan

Parang atin ang gabi
Para bang wala tayong katabi
At tayo’y sumayaw
Na parang di na tayo bibitaw
Bibitaw

Matapos man ang sayaw
Pangakong di ka bibitaw

Parang atin ang gabi
Parang atin ang gabi
Parang atin ang gabi
Para bang wala tayong katabi
At tayo’y sumayaw
Na parang di na tayo bibitaw

Parang atin ang gabi
Para bang wala tayong katabi
At tayo’y sumayaw
Na parang di na tayo bibitaw
Di na tayo bibitaw

May kakaibang tibok. Di mo mawari kung ang puso mo ba’y sasabog. Nakapanlalamig. Tila bang isang gabing hangin lamang ang inyong naririnig. Dinarasal na sana’y di na matapos ang gabi. May miminsang ang mga mata ay mag kakahulihan ng tingin. Ahhh. Ganun daw sa prom.

Oo. Di ko alam kung ano ang pakiramdam ng nakapag-Prom. Eh ang KJ kasi ni Sir Principal. Kami lang ang batch na di nakaranas ng ganoon. Kesyo uso kasi ang jontisan at iba pang nakawan ng di mawaring uhm. Basta. So ayun, walang tugtog ng mga awiting mapapaindak ang aming mga paa, walang mga damit at saya na nagpabonggahan, walang mga pusong nag kapanaan, walang mga matang nakatitigan.

First dance? Di ko na maalala kung sino. Kasi naman parang wala lang. Pero ang sigurado ko ay sa kasalan yun. Ganoon kasi sa probinsya kapag may ikinakasal. Lahat ng abay ay dapat makipagsayaw sa kapareha na itinakda ng mga ikakasal. Pero, dib a? Iba pa din kung sa Prom yung first dance mo? Tapos kayo ng iyong iniirog ang nagkaroon ng pagkakataon upang angkinin ang oras? Eh kaso ayun, tapos na. Wala na. Di na maibabalik pa ang oras.

Dadating ba ang panahon na pinakahihintay? Na tayo’y ay magkakatabi, magkahawak kamay habang sumasabay sa himig at ritmo ng musika, magkakatinginan na parang atin ang mundo? Narito lang ako maghihintay.

PS: Save the last dance for me.

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#Random thoughts #waiting

Confessions: On Super Woman or Darna

I am a super woman wannabe. YES! Pero noong bata pa ako. Hindi ko lang maintindihan kung bakit ngayon ay mukhang nagiging super woman na nga ako.

Lately, I’ve been doing things out of my capacity. Pero ewan, hindi ko maintindihan kung paano ko sila lahat nagagawa. Dahil ba sa napipilitan ako? Hindi naman siguro. Dahil ba sa wala lang akong magawa? Lalong hindi. Dahil ba sa gusto kong mag-paimpress sa tao? Mas lalo namang wala yun sa isip ko.

Ang alam ko lang ginagawa ko ang lahat ng iyon dahil sa “covenant” ko kay Lord. Covenant, isang  bagay na pinanghahawakan nating lahat. Minsan nakakapagod, nakakaubos ng lakas pero hindi ko din alam kung paano pa ako nakakatayo at nakakakilos para gawin ang lahat ng iyon. Kung iisipin mahirap, pero kapag ginagawa na para bang may super powers na bigla na lang pumupumunta sa katawan.

Pero syempre, kapag nagiging tao na uli ako pakiramdam ko lumulutang ang utak ko. Noong isang araw ng sumakay ako sa MRT, syempre bago ka makapasok dapat dumaan ka muna sa gwardya para icheck yung mga dala mo, sa di malamang dahilan, na kung tutuusin ay palagi naman akong sumasakay doon, ay inaabot ko sa gwardiya ang bayad. Mabuti na lamang ay hindi naman kami magkakilala kahit pa pagtawanan nya ako. Nasundan pa ito noong sumakay ako ng bus pauwi. Ganito kasi yan, 21 pesos kasi ang dapat na  pamasahe nang saka ko matanto na ang binibigay ko sa konduktor ay 8 pesos lamang. Napagalitan pa ako. Baka daw jeepney lamang ang sasakyan ko.

Ipagpatawad na lamang nila ang aking kahinaan.

Maliban kasi sa trabaho (na minsan ay di pa tapos, may kasunod na agad * hindi naman ako nagrereklamo doon*) ay may iba’t ibang aktibidad pa ako. Ilang araw na walang tulog, pahinga, stressed sa buhay, pero bakit nakakaya ko pa din lahat? Nakalunok ba ako ng bato? Hindi naman. Dedoo na ako siguro kung oo. Energy drink? Ayaw ko ng ganun. Dahil sa kape? Hindi na nga masyado eh. Marahil ay dahil SA’YO at sa Kanila. Pipiliting kong gumalaw dahil alam kong nariyan Ikaw at sila.

At dahil sa isa akong Super woman o Darna, asahan na natin, saka na ang love life.

Sige, ang totoo wala lang akong maisulat. Ito lang ang pumasok sa isip ko.

Lilipad na si Darna (sa Tagalog), Super Woman (sa Ingles).

Up, up and away!!!

Super heroine