The Guy Who Must Not Be Named

If there’s a girl who must be named, well, here’s the boy who must not be named (for now). Ask me and I’ll tell you why.

I was with my colleague that time. We both attended an activity in one of the prestigious universities in the Philippines. It was also my colleague’s alma mater. We sat on the seats reserved for us. I was very excited because that was my first time to step on its ground. Few minutes later, the program already started. There was this man who stunned me. He held the microphone and started to welcome the participants. He was one of the masters of the ceremony. I was really astonished with his voice, its coldness, rhythm and pleasant pronunciation of words. What a voice, really! No more words came out of my mouth. It sounded like music to my ears.

Then, the program went on. I forgot him and his adorable voice.

Right after the forum, my colleague and I tried to approach one of the guest speakers, (who’s actually the former director of our organization). It wasn’t easy to get in touch with her so we decided to wait for a moment. The fact that it was my colleague’s alma mater, he just mingled with his friends, classmates and teachers. Then the man with an adorable voice entered the circle. To my surprise, he was my colleague’s block mate and closest friend. He was eventually introduced to me. After hi-s and hellos, we (my colleague, the man with the adorable voice and I) left the hall and went to the socials area.  We were eating on the same table. We laughed, and shared stories. Until, the man with the adorable voice shared the sweet love story of my colleague. Hahaha! My colleague left the two of us for he couldn’t take listening to it. Oh “men, as usual”. The man-with-the-adorable-voice continued. He was such a funny guy and a gentleman too. I felt so comfortable listening to him. We laughed and laughed as if we’re close friends. He shared his dreams, his passions and plans. Well, like some other guys, he experienced the tragedy of love, and he’s currently waiting for the right one. He asked things about me and I shared the same matters.  I learned more about him when his friends came. They were also fun to be with. It was  indeed a splendid day! I never thought that I’ll be able to talk to the man who stunned me, the man who caught my attention. Oh, was that love at first heard?  But wait, there’s more. Though he must not be named, let’s just call him Mr. Flynn Rider. He really looked like Flynn (a character in the movie Tangled). Imagine Flynn and you’ll see his face.

Should I thank destiny for what happened that day? That I couldn’t tell. Let’s see if we’ll meet each other again. God knows the right prince for His princess.

I’ll wait for His time. I’ll wait until He says so.

True Love Waits.

Truly yours,




Lessons from the ‘World’s Ugliest Woman’: ‘Stop Staring and Start Learning’

By Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Secrets to Your Success (9/14/2012)

When she was in high school, Lizzie Velasquez was dubbed “The World’s Ugliest Woman” in an 8-second-long YouTube video. Born with a medical condition so rare that just two other people in the world are thought to have it, Velasquez has no adipose tissue and cannot create muscle, store energy, or gain weight. She has zero percent body fat and weighs just 60 pounds.

In the comments on YouTube, viewers called her “it” and “monster” and encouraged her to kill herself. Instead, Velasquez set four goals: To become a motivational speaker, to publish a book, to graduate college, and to build a family and a career for herself.

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Now 23 years old, she’s been a motivational speaker for seven years and has given more than 200 workshops on embracing uniqueness, dealing with bullies, and overcoming obstacles. She’s a senior majoring in Communications at Texas State University in San Marcos, where she lives with her best friend. Her first book, “Lizzie Beautiful,” came out in 2010 and her second, “Be Beautiful, Be You,” was published earlier this month.

“The stares are what I’m really dealing with in public right now,” she told Dr. Drew Pinsky in an interview on CNN’s Headline News this week. “But I think I’m getting to the point where… instead of sitting by and watching people judge me, I’m starting to want to go up to these people and introduce myself or give them my card and say, ‘Hi, I’m Lizzie. Maybe you should stop staring and start learning’.”

Velasquez was born in San Antonio, Texas; she was four weeks premature and weighed just 2 pounds, 10 ounces. “They told us they had no idea how she could have survived,” her mother, Rita, 45, told the Daily Mail. “We had to buy doll’s clothes from the toy store because baby clothes were too big.” Doctors warned Rita and her husband, Lupe, that their oldest child would never be able to walk or talk, let alone live a normal life. (Her two younger siblings were not affected by the syndrome.)

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Instead, she has thrived. Her internal organs, brain, and bones developed normally, though her body is tiny. Since she has no fatty tissue in which to store nutrients, she has to eat every 15 to 20 minutes to have enough energy to get through the day. One brown eye started clouding over when she was 4 years old, and now she’s blind in that eye and has only limited sight in the other.

“Some days life doesn’t make sense,” she writes in “Be Beautiful, Be You.” “You just have to change what you can, ask for help and pray about the rest.”

She notes her triumphs and posts inspirational messages on Tumblr, and says that she’s learned to embrace the things that make her unique. Instead of trying to retaliate against people who have made her feel badly, she sets goals for herself and pushes herself to succeed in spite of the haters. She’s even reclaimed YouTube, video blogging about everything from bullying to hair-styling tips to staying positive.

“I feel really glad that I don’t look like the celebrities out there that are so beautiful,” she told Dr. Drew. “There’s a lot of stereotypes attached to that.” Not looking like a supermodel “gives people the opportunity to know you personally,” she explains. “If they’re willing to take that extra step they’ll get to know the person you really are.”

Of course, the horrible comments left on that old YouTube video stung (the video has since been removed, but Velasquez says she read every single comment). Now, she says, she understands that they’re “just words.”

“I’m human, and of course these things are going to hurt,” she said. “Their judgements of me isn’t who I am, and I’m not going to let these things define me.”

“I didn’t sink down to their level,” she said in a follow-up video on YouTube last year. “Instead, I got my revenge through my accomplishments and determination. In the battle between the ‘World’s Ugliest Woman’ video vs. me, I think I won.”